They don’t get the joke

“You’re a feminist??”
they whisper
as if I have disease
or someone might here them.

Feminist:
treat the person with caution
they get appalled by rape and sexist
jokes

they don’t seem to find humor in
gender oppression and
sexual abuse
that’s so weird

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Aftertaste of Shame: When Will They Stop the Blame?

A rush comes with anger
With the aftertaste of shame.
I didn’t think this would ever happen to me
And I am not to blame

With the aftertaste of shame
I cover my body, to feel safe
And I am not to blame
Empty streets and long walks home

I cover my body to feel safe
When will they realize I was sober
Empty streets and long walks home
We must remember, we will always remember

When will they realize I was sober
They say I am at fault, but how?
We must remember, we will always remember
We need to take action now.

They say I am at fault, but how?
This shouldn’t happen to anyone
We need to take action now
A rush comes with anger

Women are not to blame

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I have grown up in a world where my parents have told me to dress appropriately, so that men’s gaze doesn’t fall upon my body in the way that makes me shrink into myself. They told me that my skirts have to be go past the tips of my fingers, and my shirt cannot show cleavage. But as I grow older I begin to realize how illogical it is. It should not be my duty as a woman to dress so that I do not get touched or harassed by men. It should be the duty of men to not look upon a women with that type of look that makes the cringe and shrink into their bodies and minds. Sometimes what we wear does not stop men from doing that. Sometimes little girls feel the wrath of men who cannot control their urges, and was it what they were wearing set the man off? The answer is mostly likely no.  Maybe instead of teaching young girls how to dress, parents should teach young boys how not to rape, not to make women feel uncomfortable. Then maybe this world will be less fucked.

Woman should not be blamed for their rape, because they were drunk or they were being too provocative or she never said no. Being drunk doesn’t allow anyone access to someones body. Wearing a short, tight dress doesn’t mean she’s asking for it, or that she’s a slut. Just because she never said no does not mean she wants you, if she is pulling away or squirming, she does not want that to be happening.